{"id":806,"date":"2019-11-05T15:32:48","date_gmt":"2019-11-05T20:32:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/campus.cru.org\/faculty\/?p=806"},"modified":"2023-07-18T21:08:50","modified_gmt":"2023-07-19T01:08:50","slug":"his-wife-cried-when-i-introduced-myself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/campus.cru.org\/faculty\/2019\/his-wife-cried-when-i-introduced-myself\/","title":{"rendered":"His Wife Cried When I Introduced Myself"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"806\" class=\"elementor elementor-806\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section data-particle_enable=\"false\" data-particle-mobile-disabled=\"false\" class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-718d875 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"718d875\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-f3bd631\" data-id=\"f3bd631\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1866464 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1866464\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>To understand why his wife cried, it might help to know what I have been doing the past couple of years. I retired five years ago from Oklahoma State University after 38 years in academia. The Faculty Commons staff couple that built the vibrant Christian faculty-staff ministry at OSU over a period of 30 years retired\u2014and passed along the leadership to me.&nbsp;<br><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section data-particle_enable=\"false\" data-particle-mobile-disabled=\"false\" class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-ae16065 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"ae16065\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-25898af\" data-id=\"25898af\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-533e818 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"533e818\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Our group has focused on events: faculty luncheons with guest speakers; campus-wide lectures by Christian apologists. In part, because these events succeeded, our email list has grown to about 300 faculty and staff members.&nbsp;<\/p><p>People continue to attend our events.&nbsp;<\/p><p><b>But what is really happening in faculty lives?&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section data-particle_enable=\"false\" data-particle-mobile-disabled=\"false\" class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7863c1e elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7863c1e\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-c881ab2\" data-id=\"c881ab2\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0ea3f9c elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"0ea3f9c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Coffee Conversations<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section data-particle_enable=\"false\" data-particle-mobile-disabled=\"false\" class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-fff0bc9 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"fff0bc9\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-d3e41d2\" data-id=\"d3e41d2\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9361097 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"9361097\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>I didn\u2019t start out with that question in mind six years ago when our group was raising money for more events on campus. I decided to meet one-on-one with a few Christian colleagues I knew to ask for their support. Nearby coffee shops provided the perfect environment.<\/p><p>What followed were regular conversations at the coffee shop adjacent to campus that took an unexpected turn. I was expecting uncomfortable, hurried visits. I was unprepared for an hour or more of wide-ranging and relaxed interaction about all aspects of our lives. My faculty friends grew surprisingly open about tenure struggles, work-life balance, and their Christian walk.<\/p><p>Finally, someone had taken the time to listen.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p><p>While a Ph.D. student at Colorado State University, I noticed that my department\u2019s faculty members often gathered in groups of 3 or 4 to walk to the Lory Student Center for mid-morning coffee. When I got to South Dakota State, I was surprised that my fellow faculty members also had a long-standing tradition of mid-morning and mid-afternoon coffee breaks. Every day of the workweek!\u00a0<\/p><p>Urged on by a senior faculty member, I attended most coffee breaks in which I wasn\u2019t either in class or actively researching. At coffee, I soaked up the cultural values of my colleagues, learned subtle tips about teaching effectiveness, and received hints about making tenure.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section data-particle_enable=\"false\" data-particle-mobile-disabled=\"false\" class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-6e2c87d elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"6e2c87d\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-c8b19a1\" data-id=\"c8b19a1\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4428c5c elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4428c5c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">A New Reality on Campus<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section data-particle_enable=\"false\" data-particle-mobile-disabled=\"false\" class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-f0a7912 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"f0a7912\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-e67902c\" data-id=\"e67902c\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c11820f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c11820f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Sadly, the new reality is that on many campuses:\u00a0<\/p><p>Faculty members no longer value the need to gather regularly for informal dialogue.<\/p><p>University administrations often discourage non-instructional use of space.<\/p><p>Office doors that were traditionally open are increasingly closed.<\/p><p>The closed-door shouts\u2014\u201cDon\u2019t interrupt me!\u201d<\/p><p>Hence, faculty members socialize less frequently, and in so doing miss out on informal mentoring and vital life-on-life connections.\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section data-particle_enable=\"false\" data-particle-mobile-disabled=\"false\" class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-6bde8db elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"6bde8db\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-74e7a9d\" data-id=\"74e7a9d\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9514dd1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"9514dd1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Despite this new reality, I've made coffee conversations a valued practice. <\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section data-particle_enable=\"false\" data-particle-mobile-disabled=\"false\" class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-2a02134 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"2a02134\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-c92ba55\" data-id=\"c92ba55\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ab682e9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ab682e9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>So it was that one day I introduced myself to the wife of one of my \u201ccoffee friends.\u201d As she broke into tears, she said, \u201cI have been praying for my husband to have other Christian men come alongside him.\u201d She went on to explain that her husband works long hours, is isolated, and needs encouragement. Her tears said \u201cthank you\u201d for being one of those men.<\/p><p>The next time you meet a faculty member whom you hardly know at church or at a Faculty Commons event on campus, ask if you can buy him\/her a cup of coffee so that you can get acquainted. Meet somewhere other than their office. Find time to listen.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section data-particle_enable=\"false\" data-particle-mobile-disabled=\"false\" class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-16e8853 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"16e8853\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-00e4226\" data-id=\"00e4226\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-28c12e7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"28c12e7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><b>Dave Engle<\/b><br>OSU<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>To understand why his wife cried, it might help to know what I have been doing the past couple of years. 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