Valentine’s Day is a natural moment to invite students into something social, upbeat, and relational. This outreach works well in a home or school setting and is designed to feel more like a party than a program, while still clearly introducing students to your campus ministry and the gospel.
The key is intentional planning with a relaxed atmosphere. Music, refreshments, and friendly Christian students who are actively welcoming new people help set the tone from the moment students arrive.
Outreach Tips
- Plan ahead. Set the date, confirm the location, and print fliers as early as possible.
- Delegate. Give leadership roles to students and volunteers whenever you can.
- Create an atmosphere. Keep things informal and upbeat with music and snacks. Encourage Christian students to seek out new faces.
- Promote the event (optional). Leadership guys can hand out red roses or carnations to girls, or leadership girls can hand out chocolate kisses. Include a personal invitation the day before the outreach.
- Obtain prizes. Especially for the Dating Game, nice prizes help boost energy and participation.
Sample Outreach Schedule
- Mingling and refreshments
- Welcome (3 minutes)
- Campus ministry overview from the emcee (3 minutes)
- Icebreaker: Famous Couples game (10 minutes)
- Dating Game (20 to 30 minutes)
- Student testimony with a relationship theme (4 minutes)
- Relationship talk and gospel presentation (15 to 20 minutes max)
- Comment cards (7 minutes)
- Announcements (2 minutes)
- Refreshments and hanging out (no set time)
The key is intentional planning with a relaxed atmosphere.
Game 1: Famous Couples
Choose an even number of participants and prepare a list of famous couples ahead of time, such as Luke Skywalker and Princess Leia or Romeo and Juliet. Write each name on a 3×5 card and as students enter, tape the name of one character on their back without letting them see it.
Each student may ask up to three yes or no questions per person to figure out who they are. They must also take turns answering questions when asked. The goal is to discover their identity and find their matching partner as quickly as possible. Continue until everyone is matched.
Game 2: The Dating Game
If you don’t have a lot of couples for this game, you could call it the “Best Friend Test” and have them do best friends instead. However, considering this party is about romantic relationships it is obviously better to have romantic couples playing.
This game is similar to the Best Friend Test you’ve probably seen on TikTok or shows like The Circle, or the old Newlywed game. (If you haven’t seen them, check them out). One person answers questions first, then their partner tries to guess what they said.
One partner leaves the room while the questions are asked. The partners in the room write the answers down. Then they come back, hear the same questions, and try to match their partner’s answers. Each correct match earns a point. The pair with the most points wins a prize.
The questions are light, funny, and all about how well you actually know the other person.
Dating Game Questions
For the girls (guys leave the room):
- Which ice cream flavor best describes your relationship right now: Vanilla, Rocky Road, Peaches and Cream, or Tutti Frutti?
- On your first date, which animal was he most like: Turtle, Kitten, Tiger, or Octopus?
- How long have you been going out?
- What is the most sentimental gift he has given you?
For the guys (girls leave the room):
- Which Disney character would she say best describes you: Mickey Mouse, The Beast, Goofy, or Winnie the Pooh?
- What song is “your song”?
- What did you do on your first date?
- What is her favorite perfume?
- Which Valentine’s gift would she most like: candy, flowers, or a kiss?
- What outfit is she wearing right now?
Optional non-gender questions
- What is their go-to fast food order?
- What song would they put on if they needed a hype boost?
- What stresses them out faster than it should?
- If they had a free day, how would they spend it?
What is something they are secretly really good at?
While relationships matter deeply to us, they also expose one of our biggest fears, the fear of not being truly loved.
Relationship Talk
Overview
The relationship talk should be short, clear, and serve as a natural bridge to the gospel. Valentine’s Day provides an easy entry point into the idea that everyone is searching for love and meaningful relationships, yet few of us have good models of what lasting love looks like.
This talk introduces the idea that there is a kind of love that lasts, a love that does not depend on performance or appearance, and that love is found in God.
Introduction
Begin with a funny or embarrassing dating story to lower defenses and help students relate.
The Talk
Relationships take a lot of time and energy, whether with parents, friends, coworkers, or romantic partners. While relationships matter deeply to us, they also expose one of our biggest fears, the fear of not being truly loved.
Psychologists often describe our greatest need as the need to love and be loved. At the same time, our greatest fear is that if people really knew us, they would reject us. Because of this, many of us wear masks and show only what we think others want to see.
Even people who care about us deeply can disappoint or reject us when we do not meet their expectations. That pain leaves us asking what real love actually looks like.
There are three common types of love people experience:
- “I love you if…” love, which is conditional on behavior.
- “I love you because…” love, which is based on appearance, popularity, or performance.
- “I love you, period.” love, which is unconditional and unchanging.
What we truly long for is the third kind of love.
One Who Loves No Matter What
That kind of love exists, and it comes from God. God loves people for who they are, not for how they perform or what they offer. He invites us into a real relationship with Him where His love is constant and secure.
From here, transition clearly into the gospel and explain how students can have a relationship with God and experience His unconditional love.
If you’re not sure how to share the gospel, learn how to HERE
Comment Cards
Use a comment card to collect name, address, phone number, school, and grade. Include simple response options for students who received Christ, want more information, or want to get involved with your campus ministry.